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Overcome Your Fear of Failure and Notice The Difference

by Stacy Lewis on 03/29/12

 

Imagine how successful your life would be if you were not afraid to fail! We lose so many opportunities when we're afraid.  The risk of failing often outweighs the risk of success. Imagine how much success, joy and fun you could have in your life if you were not afraid to fail.      

 

Many of us have already thought about how our fear of failure blocks our success, but changing still scares us.     How do we get so afraid of failure that we won't try anything new?  It takes time and training to learn how to be afraid of failing. We either learn the fear from someone in our family or our teachers, we are taught that failing is terrible, rather than just the need for adjustment, or we have a negative experience and vow never to take a risk again.    

 

I invite you to imagine a life without fear.    

 

  •  If you were not afraid to fail what would you do with your life? 
  • If you were not afraid to fail, what risks would you take?  

Imagine a life with momentum and looking forward to new ideas and new chances to succeed.  Imagine a life where trying something new is exciting and optimistic, rather than dangerous and scary.      

 

The problem is if we are afraid to fail, then we will not try anything new, we would rather play it safe and stay where we are in the moment.  Even though we may lose incredible opportunities to expand and move forward by playing it safe, at least we do not risk failing.     

 

If you can overcome your fear of failure, you will be present in your daily life more, enjoy trying new ideas, and engage in new activities that can yield great results in your personal and professional life.       

 

We waste so much time trying to protect ourselves. When we are afraid of failing, we are avoiding conflicts, procrastinating, or making excuses as to why we cannot do something.  It is not that we feel as if we are missing valuable opportunities, it is that we do not see them as valuable to begin with, we only see them as chances to fail instead of expand.  

 

My invitation is for you to set aside your fear of failure and enjoy a life of excitement, opportunities and adventures!     

The choice is yours! Go For It and enjoy the successes that start to flow into your life!    

Have you let go of a fear lately?  I would love to hear about it!

Stop Trying So Hard and See What Happens

by Stacy Lewis on 03/23/12

Do not over think your problems.  Sometimes the smartest choice it to just stop thinking about them, put them on hold for awhile and see what happens.

The more I stop forcing things to happen the more they sort themselves out.  The more I let things happen, the less time I spend trying to make them happen and I feel much better.

I know what I want the end product to look like and I hold that in my mind.  Sometimes it is just easier to let go of the plan when it become more of a problem than a journey.  By doing this a new prospective sometimes appears enabling us to tweak the original plan so it is not longer a problem.    

 

Letting go of problems can be about honoring your feelings.  It can be about giving up on trying to force yourself into the shoulds of our societal molds.    

 

Here is an invitation to  

  • Give up on the life you think you should live if it is not bringing you joy, make a change
  • Give up trying to be perfect 
  • Give up trying to meet the expectations of others
  • Give up some of your own expectations, make sure the ones you hold yourself accountable to bring you joy  
  • Give up being in relationships with people you do not like
  • Give up trying to stay super-organized if you have been trying to become that for over a year, sometimes good things are born out of chaos  
  • Give up on perfectionism
  • Give up control  

Trying to make things happen all the time can be very stressful. Try to accept life as it is.  If action needs to be taken, of course take it, but see what comes of it and re-direct some of your shoulds to wants.   

 

So many problems only exist within our own minds.  They are not real physical problems but simply self imposed obstacles.  If is very helpful to take a step back from our problems and dilemmas.  Try giving up having to solve every problem that comes your way and see what happens.    

 What problem have you given up on that has worked itself out?          

 

Live Your Dreams? Materialize Your Vision? Follow Your Passion?

by Stacy Lewis on 03/16/12

Live your dreams! Materialize your vision!  Follow your passion! 

This sounds so exciting. 

 

But, have you ever wondered if you were the only one who did not have something you were passionate about?  Maybe you have to many things you want to materialize.  Maybe you do not know what dream you want to live?  

 

Or, maybe you know what you want but are just scared to make the change.  You know the saying, The monster we know is better than the monster we do not know.   

When we hear about others success stories we become inspired.  They can reinforce our commitment.  If she did it, I can to. 

So how do you go about making that transition to living your dreams and following your passion, especially if you do not know what they are?   

Step 1 - Label Your Passion:  Passion is the energy that comes from bringing more of you into what you do.  When you do what you are passionate about you get energy from doing it.  

It does not have to be something that occupies your every waking thought or makes you quiver with excitement.  Your passions can be what matters to you, the activities you enjoy doing and are meaningful.    

 

It is being who you are, doing what you are excited about, having fun and living with joy.  Simply put, when what you do is in alignment with who you are, you get energy from doing it.   

 Step 2 - Take Inventory of Your Current Situation:  Look at what you are doing now.   

  • Why did you start doing it?
  • What was it that pulled you to your current situation?
  • Does your job and life involve a lot of activities you would rather not do?
  • Is there anyway you can focus more on what you like and delegate what you do not like? 
  • Is there anyway you can focus more on your interests in your current situation? 
  • Is there something new to learn about your passion that originally brought you to where you are now?

Look at your answers to these questions.  Is it time to try something else? 

 

Sometimes what you thought you were passionate about changes. Sometimes you change.  

 

Step 3 -  Take Deliberate Concise Action -   1) Explore your options  2) Develop your opportunities 3) Focus your attention  4) Implement a strategy and 5)  Materialize your vision by actually living your dreams.   

 

Your willingness to make that transition is 90% of your success.   

 

When you wake up in the morning, excited about your day, you know you are living with passion.  It can be done, maybe even with a little tweaking here and there in your current environment.   

 

Question for You: If you had the option to be anywhere right now and doing anything, where and what would it be?   

 

 

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